Love And Sex Are Not Synonymous
April 7, 2018. By Vladimire Calixte, MA, CRC, LMHC
Sex is NOT love!
With just a cursory glance through our movies, television shows, music videos and even YouTuber videos, you can see that our culture has taught us and is teaching future generations that sex and love are one in the same. This is a lie.
Sex is NOT love.
Sex is the ultimate expression of your love for your partner. If you are having sex because you are secretly hoping that they’ll develop feelings for you down the road, I pray that you find the courage to STOP. Sex without mutual love and caring only leads to pain and disappointment for those who are seeking the deeper connection that love and commitment brings.
Sex is NOT love.
If a potential partner tells you that they don’t want a relationship, believe them. You will not and cannot “convince” anyone to love you by engaging in sexual activities with the person. Sex cannot and will not create feelings of love out of thin air. And sex will not and cannot inspire the deeper level of intimacy that you so deserve.
Just think about it and ask yourself:
“Am I okay with just hooking-up or do I want a relationship?”
Respect yourself enough to know that you deserve so much MORE than to be just a hook-up.
“Sex alone is not enough to bond a relationship. You deserve someone who truly cares for you, respects you, and wants to get to know you. Someone who is totally interested in YOU.” ~ Carol Kappes
If you feel like you’re having trouble telling the difference between sex and love and would like to talk with someone, please browse through the counselors, therapists, and coaches listed at Therapy for Black Men.