“We shall know that state of love only when jealousy, envy, possessiveness, domination come to an end; and as long as we possess, we shall never love.” ~Krishnamurti-
I recently read an article where the author expressed the opinion that NOT exhibiting jealousy is the #1 sign that a man will NEVER commit.
I am disheartened to see this misconception so deeply ingrained in our society. Jealousy is NOT a sign of love and commitment. Jealousy is a soul wound! Jealousy is rooted in fear and is about ownership instead of protectiveness.
Jealousy is multi-dimensional, involving emotions (anxiety, anger), thoughts (“She’s going to leave me for him.” “He loves her more than he loves me.”), and behaviors (nagging, spying on your partner). ~Dr. Noam Shpancer
Jealousy is a harbinger of strife and dissatisfaction in a relationship.
At the extreme end of the continuum are those obsessively and morbidly jealous individuals who end up committing what is known as “crimes of passion.” ~Dr. Noam Shpancer
The following traits have been linked to jealousy:
The aforementioned factors that link to jealousy are about the insecurities of the jealous person. It’s not about the love they have for their partner. A jealous person is trying to have control over getting love instead of loving him or herself and sharing his or her love with others.
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